In our Mama Moment series, we interview mamas going through the messy middle, delving into the lessons and truths they’ve learned along the way.
Interview by Carson Meyer
What is the most important lesson you’ve learned as a new mom?
That parenting is all one big cha cha. You’re constantly going to go two steps forward in one area and one step back in another– and that’s okay.
What was the one thing no one told you but wish they had?
That breastfeeding is SO hard and painful! My mom breastfed five kids with extreme ease and my various mom friends seemed to have no issues. It was so difficult and painful for me. I couldn’t understand why. Thankfully lactation consultants exist.
What do you miss about being pregnant?
The baby kicks! That will forever be the most amazing thing to me.
What don’t you miss?
The heartburn! Oh my gosh the heartburn was so bad. I slept sitting up for the last 4 months. It was brutal.
What was the biggest surprise?
How much personality such a small baby can have– She’s been feisty and silly from the start.
What advice would you give yourself knowing what you know now about motherhood?
Just go with it. Do what works and gets you both through to the next day with as little fuss as possible. So many people told me to not start certain bad habits early on or they would be impossible to break (using a pacifier, rocking her to sleep, letting her nap in the swing while it rocked). She dropped the pacifier on her own at 4 months and eventually learned to fall asleep without me. You both need as much peace and quiet as you can get and if these crutches enable that then so be it!
Do you have a self-care ritual?
I don’t have a ritual per se, but I make it a point to get out of the house at least twice a week, baby free. It can just be to Target and back, but having at least that little bit of alone time does so much for my sanity and helps break up the day to day.